GEMERAL FEMINISM * by Flick Ruby The ultimate goal of feminism is to make feminism unnecessary. And that makes feminism different from other political movements in this country. 1 Women consititute half the worlds population, perform nearly two thirds of the world's work, receive one tenth of the world's income and own less than one hundreth of the worlds wealth UN decade of women 1975-85 findings. 2 Male Identificaion means internalising the values of the colonizer and actively participating the carrying our the colonization of oneself and one's sex., Male identification is the way whereby women place men above women including themselves, in credibility status, and importance in most situations regardless of the comparitive quality the women may bring to the situation. 3 "My own journey has been from unawareness to assigning responsibility for my world," she concluded. "by understanding that the forces that oppress me have that power only because I cooperate with them. These forces seem impenetrable - the Pentagon, the Multinationals. They seem to hate the world parceled out and under control. But I challenge them because they don't create justice. I take my cooperation away, and I encourage others to do the same. We can make change when large numbers of us act in unity. 4 "Male language allows males to participate fully in it, while females can do so only be abstracting themselves from their concrete identities as females. 5 "She wrote as a woman, but as a woman who has forgotten that she is a woman, so that her pages were full of that curious sexual quality which comes only when sex is unconscious of itself" 6 Men describe the world from their own point of view which they confuse with absolute truth 7 Mechaniam, as a metaphysics and an epistimelogy not nly spread from physics to chemistry and biology, but also to physicology, psychology, religion, poetry, ethics, political theory and art. 8 Heidi Hartmann defines patriarchy as: a set of social relations between men, which have a material base, and which, though hierarchial, establish or create interdependence and solitaridy among men that enable them to dominate women. Though patriarchy is hierarchial and men of different places in the patriarchy they, are also united in their shared relationship of dominance over thier women, they are dependent on eachother to maintain that domination...in the hierarchy of patriarchy, all men, whatever their rank in the partriarchy are bought off by being able to control at least some women. 9 Feminism for me is the desire to remove the necessity for women to turn off to survive, to accept the situation which is unbearable because 'everyone else does'. Feminism is having a big shit detector which can make an entire day utterely miserable because feminists cannot hang their politics up on a hook before they go "out". 10 Feminist NOTICE. Being a feminist means NOTICING being aware of the details, seeing as meaningful what most see as incidental. For this we are accused of paranoia. The mind's behind ASIO, CIA etc play on the word paranoia for one is easliy dismissed if one is paraniod and again in the cloak of a joke the truth slips by, not taken in, registered or even contemplated. All people who ponder the possiibilities who notice the connections who are cracking the code of the powers that be are labeled paranoid. And when people that you think you know start revealing that they are the enemy, start threatening you, messing with you car, playing power games that involve ancient words and symbols, when people keep popping up to the point where coincidence seems inconcievable , you can get paraniod or you can laugh. 11 Our humor turns our anger into a fire . 12 Power which can only be expressed deviously, secretly or through manipulation is always suspected of being dangerous or evil." 13 As feminsts, we inhabit the world in a new way. We see the world in a new way. We threaten to turn it upside down and inside out . We intend to change it so totally that someday the text of masculinsts writers will be anthropological curiosities. What was that Mailer talking about, our descendants will ask, should they come upon his work in some obscure archive. And they will wonder - bewildered, sad, at the masculinist glorification of war, the masculinist mystifications around killing maiming violence and pain; the tortured masks of phallic heroism; the main arrogance of phallic supremacy, the impoverished renderings of mothers and daughters, and so of life iteself. They will ask did those people really believe in those gods? 14 When she does utter the unutterable and name this schism he has created, he will blame the messenger and call her the seperatist. 15 They the masculinists, have told us that they write about the human condition, that their themes are the great themes - love, death, heroism, suffering, history itself, They have told us that our themes - love, death, heroism, suffering history itself are trivial because we are by our nature - trivial. I renounce masculinist art. It is not art which illuminates the human condition - it illuminates only and to men's final and ever lasting shame, the masculinist world and as we look around us , that world is not one to be proud of. Masculinist art, the art of centuries of men is not universal, or the final explication of what being in the world is. It is, in the end descriptive only of a world in which women are subjegated, submissive, enslaved, robbed of full becoming, distinguished only by carnality, demeaned. I say, my life is not trivial; my sensibility is nor trivial, my struggle is not trivial. Nor was my mothers, or her mother's before her. I renounce those who hate women, who have contempt for women who ridicule and demean women, and when I do, I renounce most of the art, masculinst are, ever made. 16 "But while the male half is termed all of culture, men have not forgotten there is a female 'emotional half'. They live it on the sly., As the result of their battle to reject the female in themselves, they are unable to take love seriously as a cultural matter, but they can't do without it altogether. Love is the underbelly of (male) culture just as love is the weak spot of every man bent on proving his virility in that large male world of travel and adventure. Women have always known that men need love, and how they deny this need. Perhaps this explains the peculiar contempt women so universally feel for men." 17 Talked to X yesterday and was slipping back into the old "well for a man he has his thoughts together etc etc" and then you talk to the woman in his life - Y- a bigger legend I'll go a long way to find and she said some really hard things that bought me right back down to earth. 18 HE had no crippling doubts about his role nor about the function and value of marriage. To him it was simply an economic arrangement to some selfish benefit; one that would most easily satisfy his physical needs and reproduce his heirs. His wife too, was clear about her duties and rewards: ownership of herself and of her sexual psychological and housekeeping services for a lifetime, in return for long term patronage and protection by a member of the ruling class, and in her turn limited control over a household and over her children until they reached a certain age. Today this contract based on divided roles has been so disguised by sentiment that it goes completely unrecognized by millions of newly weds, and even most older married couples. 19 "Men are not oppressed as men, and hence not in a position to be liberated as men. This dilema has prevented - thus far - the creation of a theory (and a language) of liberation which speaks specifically to men. Everyday language , with its false diachotomies of masculinity - feminity, male-female, oscures the bonds of domnance of men over women, feminist theory illuminated those bonds and the experience of women within patriarchy but has little need to comprehend the experience of being male. In the absence of such formulation, masculinity seems often to be a mere negative quality, oppressive in its exercies to both men and women, indistinguishable from oppression per se. What would a theory look like which accounts for the many froms of being a man can take. An answer to that question poses not a 'tragedy' by and opportunity" 20 "An aggrandisment in false apology is still an aggrandizement" 21 "The ruling classes of capitalist countries and their hired agents exault bourgeois so called 'democracy' to the skies. But the fact remains that under capitalism the great majority of women are inhumanly exploited and they suffer from numerous disabilities, from restrictions of their rights in public and political life, from degrading marriage and divorce laws, which place women in humiliating and inferior position to men, from economic dependence and household drudgery" 22 "To sell a brain is worse than to sell a body, for when the body seller has sold her momentary pleasure, she takes good care that the matter shall end there. But when a breainseller has sold her brain, its anaemic, vicious and diseased progency, are let loose upon the world, to infect and corrupt and sow the seed of disease in others" 23 The women say, you are really a slave if ever there was one. Men have make what diferentiated them from you the sign of domination and possession. They say, you will never be numerous enough to spit on their phallus, you will never be suffieiencly determined to stop speaking their language, to burn their currency theur effigied their works of art their symbols. They say, men have foreseen everything, they have christened your revolt in advance a slave revolt, a revolt against nature, they call it revolt when you want to appropriate what tis their, the phallus. The women say, I refuse henceforward to speak this language I refuse to mumble after them the words lack of penis lack of money lack of insignia lack of name. I refuse to pronounce the names of possession and non-possession, they say, If I take over the world, let it be to dispossess myself of it immediatesly, let it be to forge new links between myself and the world. 24 >From books films and experiences which afirmed that which we know from books and films, we know what she/he wants . We act and react accordingly. We react to his/her knowing what he/she wants. We count on that which we know from books and films and experiences, indeed being accurate. Samuel has make his way to my breasts. They remain lifeless. I still don't love them. How dreadful that pleasure can arise even though I dont love myself, even though love of self and love of another are detached from one another, like talk and love, like work and love, like pleasure and love. He bows his head, at last he can rest it for a moment. I take him in. Once again I look down on a man's head resting between my breasts. What is he searching for. I start running, Samuel disappears, the distance seperating us remains the same. Is Samuel a mirage? Is my need to be nurtured a mirage? I would like to put a stop to this at once, would like to move away from him, look him in the eyes, talk to him, fall asleep with him. Is my vagina moist? Is his penis hard? Have all the preperations been make for reuniting the disunited? Vagina-Penis has become a surrogate unity, a substitute for all severed relationships. 25 "Love requires a mutual vulnerability that is impossible to achieve in an unequal power situation. Thus falling in love is no more that the process of alteration of male vision - through idealisation, mystification, glorification that renders void the womans class inferiority. 26 Men who want to support women in our struggle for freedom and justice should undersand that it is not terrifically important to us that they learn to cry; it is important to us that they stop the crimes of violence against us . 27 The anger of the survivor is murderous. It is more dangerous to her than to the one who hurt her. She does not believe in murder, even to save herself. She does not believe in murder, even though it would be more merciful punishment than he deserves. She wants him dead but will not kill him. She never gives up wanting him dead. The clarity of the survivor is chilling. Once she breaks out of the prison of terror and violence in which she has been nearly destroyed, a process that takes years, it is very difficult to lie to her or to manipulate her. She sees through the social strategies that have controlled her as a woman, the sexual strategites that have reduced her to a shadow of her own native possibilities. She knows that her life depends on never being taken in by romantic illusions or sexual hallucination......So what have I learned? I have learned not to believe in suffering. It is a form of death. If it is severe enough it is a poison; it kills the emotions." She knows that some of her own emotions have been killed and she mistrusts those who are infactuated with suffering, as if it were a source of life, not death. In her heart she is a mourner for those who have not survived. In her soul she is a warrior for those who are now as she was then. In her life she is both celebrant and proof of women's capacity and will to survive, to become, to act, to change self and sociey. And each year she is stronger and there are more of her. 28 "Yes I too have been very afraid of my anger. But I think that if we can begin to free ourselves of the lie we've accepted about what it is to be an angry woman-a gorgon-if we can begin to believe in our anger as a healing force, then our own belief in it as that will cause men to begin to experience it in a different way. And our danger from them will decrease. In fact, I think the reason that men are so very violent is that they know, deep in themselves, that they're acting out a lie, and so they're furious. You can't be happy living a lie, and so they're furious at being caught up in the lie. But they don't know how to break out of it, so they just go further into it. 29 Sandra Boston saw a scene in a move once that made a lasting impression. A man was picketing the White House in the middle of the night, caring a placard about stopping war. Nobody was there to see him except a night watchman who walked over to the man and said, "You know, you aren't going to change the world." The protester kept on marching but said, "I'm trying to keep the world from changing me." 30 "Val gazed at her sympathetically. 'I know. That's what makes things so hard. And of course, our sort of radicalizm is the most threatening sort ever to come down the pike. Not because we have guns and money. They tried to laugh us out of existence, now they're trying to tokenize us out of existence, the way they've done with blacks, not very successfully, I think - but their refusal to take us seriously at all is a measure of their terror. 31 If pornography releases sexual frustration, why don't we send recipe books to the starving? 32 The rebel sons wanted phallic power to be secular and "democratic" in the male sense of the word; that is, they wanted to fuck at will, as a birthright. With a princely arrogance that belied their egalitarian pretensions, they wanted to wield penises, not guns, as emblems of manhood. They did not repudiate the illegitimate power of the phallus: they repudiated the authority of the father that put limits of law and concention on their lust. They did not argue against the power of the phallus; they argued for pleasure as the purest use to which it could to put. 33 If I use contraceptives, I get sicker than I already am. In order to be able to sleep with a man, I have to become a patient. 34 Nobody likes pain, anguish and fear; but Joanna Macy insits that we cant act until we experience it. In her view, despair isn't craziness; it is an appropriate respose to the daily news. It represents an understanding of the unity of all life, and a sensitivity to the serious threat to that life. When we drop our defenses and let grief and apprehension surface, we are released from paralysis, and connected to all life. "Through our despair," she writes "something more profound and pervasive comes to light. It is our interconnectedness, our inter-existence. Beyond our pain and because of our pain, we awaken into that ...Despair work, experienced in this fashion, is consciousness-raising in the truest sense of that term. It increases our awareness, not only of the perils that face us, but also to the promise inherent in the human heart.." 35 The only way we can come out of hiding, break through our paralysing defenses, is to know it all - the full extent of sexual violence and domination of women. In knowing, in facing directly we can learn to chart out course out of this oppression, by envisioning and creating a world which will preclude female sexual slavery" 36 "Some days I feel dead, I feel like a robot, treading our time. Some days, I feel terribly alive, with hair like wires and a knife in my hand. Once in a while my mind slips and I think I am back in my dream and that I have shut the door, the one without a handly on the inside. I imagine that tommorrow I will be pounding and screaming to be let out, but no one will hear, no one will come. Other times I think I have gone over the line, like LiIly, like Val, and can no longer speak anything but truth... Maybe I need a keeper. I don't want them to lock me up and give me electric shock until I forget. Forget: lethe: the opposite of truth. I have opened all the doors in my head. I have opened all the pores in my body. But only the tide rolls in. Marylin French The Women's Room. The smoke of the burned witches still hangs in our nostrils; most of all, it reminds us to see ourselves as seperated, isolated units in copetition with eachother, alienated, powerless, alone. 37 During the 16th and 17th centuries, Western society was undergoing massive changes. THe witch hunts were an expression both of the weadening of traditional restraints and of an increase in new pressures. It was a relolutionary time, but the persecutions helped to undermine the possiblity of a revolution that would benedit women. THe changes that occured benefited the rising monied professional classes and made possible the ruthless and extensive exploitation of women, working people and nature. As paet of that change, the persecusiton of witches awas linked to 3 interconnected processes; the expropriation of land and natural resources, the expropriation of knowledge; and the war against the consciousness of immanence which was embodied in women, sexuality and magic. 38 Their customs were the expression - in actions songs, costumes, celebrations - of the organic unity of the human community and the oneness of the peasant with the land and its gifts. 39 And then he raised his eyes to her face and was sad. For sufficient reasons he was very sensitive to the tragedies of women, and he knew it was a tragedy that such a face should surmount such a body. For her body would imprison her in soft places, she would be allowed no adventures other than love, no achievements other than births. But her face was haggard, in spite of its youth, with appetite for travel in the hard places of the world, for the adventures and achievements that are the birth right of any man. 40 "But it's hard for being punished just for what you are" 41 He stood, nodded, smiled, pointed to the seat, I sat, he gave me a cigarette, I smoked, I drank coffee, he talked, I listened, he talked, I built castles out of paper on table tops, he talked, oh I was so quiet, so soft, all brazen thighs to the naked eye, to his dead and ugly eye, but inside I wanted him to see inside I was all aquiver, all trembling and dainty, all worried and afraid, nervy and a pale invalid, all pathetic need contaminated by intellect that was like wild weeds, wild weeds, massively killing the fragile gentle flower garden inside, those pruned and fragile little flowers. This I conveyed by being quiet and tender and oh so quiet, and I could see my insides all running with blood, all running with knife cuts and big fuck bruises and he saw it too. 42 I am numb. I want to cry but I do not cry. I dont cry over rape anymore. I burn but I don't cry. I shake but I don't cry. I get sick to my stomach but I don't cry. I scream inside so that my silent shrieking drowns the awful pounding of my heart but I don't cry. I am too weak to move but I don't cry" 43 "I am underground, under water, eyes closed because of the bitter saltiness of the water, wringing my hand in disbelief. X bashed Y up. My indierct but very real pain hasn't screamed, just hummed quietly like the electricity cables do. I feel like a big electircity monster and I want to march up the highway, stalk my way leaving shrieks that haunt children into their twenties and set fire to him. He said and did it all in just one night. The betrayal, the hate, the shame stains my day RED. The red of raw, the red of the blood that must have been shed. 44 Taoist China considered red a sacred color associated with women, blood, sexual potency and creative power. White was the colour of men, semen, negative influences, passsivity and death. This was the basic Tantric idea of male and female essences. The male principle was seen as "passive" and quiescent' the female principle as "active" and "creative" the reverse of later patriarchial views." 45 "Do you promise me that behind that red curtain over ther the figure of Sir Charles Biron is not concealed? We are all women you assure me? Then I may tell you the very next words I read were these 'Chloe liked Olivia...' Do not start. Do not blush. Let us admit in the privacy of our own society that these things sometimes happen. Sometimes women do like women" 46 No movement has ever been more than an accumilaion of small motions of people acting within their own sheres. In rearranging our lives, we participate in rearranging the life of society. The qualities on which we have depended for several millennia, which we have imagined kept us afloat - power-in-the-world, possesssion, status, hierarchy, tradition - are in fact sweeping us to ruin what is necessary to prevent that ruin are the very qualities we have leared to trust - the flexible, fluid, transient elements of affection and communality. The past had its moment; we have ours. After a moment all life dies and is transformed, transubstantiated. The end of life is the continuation of life, the means we use to attain that end is the mode in which we live it . All of us, victors and victims, and we are all both, are transitory. Like the world, we are passing. We are like soldier ants, moving from a depleted area to seek food beyond, in an unexplored terrain. We have encountered a river that sepatates us from sight of the future; we have a choice only to die where we stand or to enter it . The ants always enter and drown. They drown by the millions, and in their death add their bodies to a bridge on which the survivors can cross over to what they hope will be richer grounds, as the devoured terrain behind them regenerated itself. All of us, members of transitory generations, help to create the bridge by which the past continues its the future. But if our lives are filled with self denial, self punishment, empty rewards, illusory goals, and the mutilations of power and obedience, then neither our lives nor our legacy is worth the pain. Only pleasure in the journey can make thejourney worthwhile, and our pleasure in our journey is also a legacy to those who follow. And if we fail? We fail: to turn the world of wicked Lady Macbeth to good purpose. The goal - feminizing the world - is also the means - feminizing our worlds. The end is the process: integrating ourselves and carrying integration as far into the world as we can. There is no final end, there is only the doing well, being what we want to be , doing what we want to do, living in delight. The choice lies between a life lived through and a life lived; between fragmentation and wholeness; between leaving behind us, as generations before us have done, a legacy of bitterness, sacrafice, and fear, and leaving behind us, if nothing more than this, a memory of our own being and doing with pleasure, an image of a life our young will want to emulate rather than avoid. The choice lied between servitude and freedom, fragmentation and integration. The choice may be beween death and life. 47 New structures can emerge sucessfully only in resopnse to a new or different set of ends. When we value pleasure - human well being - as much as profit (power), new sturctures will seem to generate themselves. 48 It's taken women a long time to say why nuclear power is a women's issue. We are the first affetcted by it, and that's why we have to take it real personally. I speak a lot at anti-nuclear rallies - I get up ther eand I'm (1) the only women and (2) the only non-white - they get two birds with one stone! Women have got to demand that we speak, because men are dong all the talking at the moment. We have a saying - Women are the backbone, and men are the jawbone; and it's true in every society. I'm not saying that we should be the jawbone, but that men be a little more of the backbone. 49 We must also demand that our politics serve our sexuality. To often, we have asked secuality to serve politics instead. Ironically the same movements that have criticised sexual repression and boring morality have them selves too often tried to mould their sexual feelings to serve the correct political theory. 50 Love, the strongest and deepsest element in all life, the harginger of hope of joy, of ecstasy; love the defier of all laws, of all conventions; love the freest, the most powerful moulder of human destiny; how can such an all-compelling force be synonymous with that poor little State and Church begotten weed, marriage?... Some day, some day men and women will rise, they will reach the mountain peak, they will meet big and strong and free, ready to receive, to partake and to bask in the golden rays of love. What fancy, what imagination, what poetic genius can foresee even approximately the potentialities of such a force in the life of men and women. If the world is ever to give birth to true companionship and oneness, not marriage, but love will be the parent. 51 Salvation lies in an energetic march onward towards a brighter and clearer future. We are in need of unhampered growth out of old traditions and habits. The movement for womens emancipation has so far made but the first step in that direction. It is to be hoped that it will gather strength to make another. The right to vote, or equal civil rights, may be good demands but true emancipation begins neither at the polls nor in the courts. It begins in woman's soul. History tells us that every oppressed class gained true liberation from its masters through its own efforts. It is necessary that woman learn that lesson, that she realize that her freedom will reach as far as her power to achieve her freedom reaches. It is therefor, far more important for her to begin with her inner regeneration, to cut loose from the weight of prejudices, traditions, and customs. The demand for equial rights in every vocation of life is just and fair; but after all, the most vital right is the right to love and be loved. Indeed, if partial emancipation is to become a complete and true emancipation of woman, it will have to do away with the ridiculous notion that to be loved, to be sweetheart and mother, is synonymous with being slave or subordinate. It will have to do away with the absurd notion of the dualism of the sexes, or that man an woman represent two antagonistic worlds. Pettiness seperates; breadth unites. Let us be broad and big. Let us not overlook vital things because of the bulk of trifles confronting us. A true conception of the relation of the sexes will not admit of conqueror and conquerd. It knows of but one real thing. To give of one's self boundlessly, in order to find ones self richer, deeper, better. That alone can fill the emptiness, and transform the tragedy of womans emancipation into joy, limitless joy." 52 1. 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